JEALOUSY🙄

So if you know me, you know I’m a fan of open relating. If you didn’t know, well now you do. What I love about open relating is the ability to choose what works best for me, even if that choice is monogamy. What I also love about it is the ability to have a partner who chooses what’s best for them, even if their choice is different from mine and still be able to love them fully. There are some aspects of open relating that makes loving so easy- there’s no need to lie and play stupid games. If the communication between you and your partner is on point, this can be a very fulfilling relationship dynamic. But what happens when there’s difficulty, namely jealousy? How can you be jealous when you’ve knowingly entered into an open relationship? Easily! That’s how. Being open doesn’t negate the emotions experienced in any other relationship structure. Being open doesn’t equate to a relationship being easier. If that’s even a thought in you considering open relating STOP RIGHT WHERE YOU ARE and go back to the beginning. You will still be required to deal with and take ownership of your own emotions (hopefully this is something you’re already doing). You will still have emotional experiences that can and will make you feel uncomfortable. When it’s jealousy that you’re experiencing, it might be a good idea to look at how you’re feeling and figure out why. I mean REALLY dig into the why. What need or desire do you feel is going unmet? What fear is coming up for you? Where does that fear originate from? Hopefully, you’re in a relationship that’s cultivated enough for you to openly, honestly and authentically communicate your your partner how you’re feeling. This can be scary in and of itself. Who wants to show up in this level of vulnerability? Especially at a time when we’re constantly urged to get out of our feelings. I get it. It’s difficult. But allowing your ego to be soothed, allowing yourself to be supported and working through the trigger is how you get to the next level of loving. Or we can continue to swim in the shallow end of the pool, jumping from shallow relationship to shallow relationship.

The choice, of course, is yours. ❤️